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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
My theory is he doesn't want to give positive attention to a T as a personal figure in LT's past. Maybe mixed in is whatever feelings he has about how MC conducted the therapy, and how he is determined not to replicate that. His message is consistent : No stone to stay connected to me and no VM to embody or commemorate a connection to MC. It could be it challenged the boundaries between him and MC as two professional to listen to a message not meant for his ears?
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Hm, that's interesting...mostly responding to your last part, though I think it all has merit. Part of what has complicated all the stuff about ex-MC is that T used to work with him (actually, work *for* him since ex-MC was one of the owners of the practice). Early on in my therapy with him, it seemed he doubted some of my versions of things, giving ex-MC the benefit of the doubt (like "Of course he'd freak out from you sending him an 'I love you so much' e-mail"). Then at some point, he shifted--I think maybe in part from my sharing an e-mail from him where he accepted some of the blame and admitted to being inconsistent. Or it may have just been that he kind of trusted me more as a client after time, or all of the above.
He now seems to feel (or at least in what he expresses to me, but it seems genuine) that ex-MC *did* mishandle things in several ways with me. So it's true that it might be coloring how he sees his colleague (who he still consults with from time to time--not on stuff about me though), which could be uncomfortable for him. Maybe he's worried about the content of the voicemail, that it might be inappropriate or show ex-MC crossed a line? Even though I don't think anything in the voicemail alone does. But I mentioned how caring it sounded, so maybe he's concerned about that?