I learned years ago, if someone usually does something & this tome they aren't that I take it as them saying "not this time" without even having to communicate. I either make my own plans or just wing it like you did.

I have had times when I had intentions of connecting with someone when out with others. Unfortunately when out with others there can end up being very little control over how things go. I have also learned to say that IF possible we may meet up but I always leave it open because I found there is never a guarantee of what the others in the group I'm in will want to do & where it might take us.

With texting cell phones for me it makes it easier to contact & let them know it is impossible to connect. I use my cell texting when running late too to let people know I didn't forget but am running late....even a few minutes so they know what is going on. I think your friend seriously did not show any respect for you & I can understand why that hurts.