Oh my, it's like I wrote this post. I have the same problems a lot. I too don't expect constant contact and even enjoy my alone time, but I can't handle being alone all the time and greatly enjoy knowing I have someone I can go to when I'm feeling lonely. I try to be realistic about it when I can, which has helped a bit. (Things like "if they didn't want me around they wouldn't talk to me ever".) However, when it goes days without having heard from the person I start to get less and less realistic and even get a bit panicky. (I can get pretty extreme when I feel like I'm being "ghosted".) It depends on the friend too. With some friends I knew I could bug them pretty much whenever and they would always be happy to hear from me. Others were more moody and didn't like to talk just for the sake of talking, so with those it's more difficult. And as I said in your last thread, since I have a big fear of abandonment I can't really handle it if I think people are pulling away or outright get rid of me, so I tend to pick up on small things that might signal them being upset with me and blow them out of proportion due to that fear. Even though I often know they're unrealistic feelings, I still can't help myself. It definitely doesn't help when I get proven right either... It tends to mean that I apologize for nothing or over-explain my actions in an attempt to help people get along with me better.