So, I did it today. I explained how I've been feeling. I tried using "I" statements. I prefaced by saying something like, "I'm not trying to change who you want to be," and, "I'm sorry I didn't bring these up earlier."

I think I laid too much on him. I got carried away and was so focused on trying to get him to see what's been going on that I ended up pointing out at least 3 areas where he could improve. I might have, unintentionally, attacked him, but again, I tried setting a "I'm trying really hard to fix this" tone. I took him by surprise and maybe didn't word things very well.

Now HE's upset... and I get it, I was kind of unfair. But at the same time, sometimes people do things in a relationship and don't realize they're hurting their partner until they say something. In the past when he has pointed out the ways I was offending him, I was oftentimes blindsided (partially by the silent treatment), oblivious that my actions were hurting him.

Basically, I might have effed up, but at the same time, I'm hurt that he doesn't realize how much everything I said meant to me. He claims that my "accusations" were unfair and piled onto him, when I've totally felt the same way before. The difference is, I accepted that I simply didn't know I was being hurtful, apologized, and promised to do better. I'm not getting that from him; rather, I'm getting a "That's just who I am/I can't change" vibe.

I don't want things to be tense between us, especially since his birthday is coming up soon, so maybe I'll try writing a letter including the green text up above. I just need to keep my head above the water until next week...