I have anxiety and depression. My husband has not been afflicted by either things. I'm really scared that I ****ed up at work and I'm crying. My husband tells me to toughen up. Honey, I got that job without knowing someone, fought for it and I do the best I can. He bawled during a movie the other say and I didn't tell him to stop being a baby, I let him hold my hand and cry on my shoulder (I don't cry at movies in general but he looked very upset so I tried to comfort him). He thinks anxiety and depression are just me being weak and it drives me up the wall. I am not using my diagnosis as an excuse for bad behavior but he doesn't get that I'm crying because I'm scared for us, that I'm scared of being fired again. That I am mad at myself for being an idiot. His response was to pull up a very idiotic song from the land before time movies (can't remember which of the various sequels) where the triceratops sings about being tough. Ugh.......We All Fall down by Aerosmith is way better and I wish he would listen to it. "I will catch you, never let you go. I won't let you go through it alone. When you feel let down, we all fall down, we all fall down." I listen to it when I do feel like this. It's a moot point but I don't know how to explain when he needs to pipe down and listen. I don't want to be coddled by him. I know I am tough because I have proven so many people who thought I would amount to nothing because of my Aspergers syndrome wrong. Proven to people that I wouldn't be happy with their status quo, that I was smarter than they thought. In my book I think that is toughness, marching to the beat of your own drum. Wow, anyway how do I tell him not to play the land before time crap and realise that when the wife is scared or upset that he needs to stop viewing such things as a weakness? Sorry if I got off topic.