At times, I feel like when we call someone clingy, it can be just merely a perception of our own opinions about them. Yes there are some people out there that are truly very clingy to everyone and even go as far as to stalk someone or make someone feel harassed, but other times, it is a opinion that some people may have while others may not. For example, I knew someone who constantly talked about her best friend and how much she loved hanging out with her and tried to hang out with her or at least text her as much as possible. That was okay.

But then if someone did the same thing, tried to hang out with them or talk with them a lot, she wouldn't like that and call them clingy. In other words, some people may be okay with one person being around them all the time, but if someone else they may not feel as close to them, that person is automatically labeled as clingy. It even happened to me once. The same person was constantly complaining in college and constantly wanted her best friend to text her and she always bragged about how great of a friend she was and how much she missed her and wanted to hang out with her.

Yet, if I tried to hang out with her, after awhile she would call me clingy even though we really only hung out in the cafeteria for lunch and dinner and sometimes in her room. It wasn't every day either and she made the initiative too, not just me. She most likely just didn't see me as a close friend, probably more as a casual friend or acquaintance even though she said she saw me as a close friend. She loved it when her friend let her talk about her feelings and try to hang out with her but if I tried to give her the same amount of attention, she would call me clingy and insecure. She was okay with talking to me about how she felt about things, but if I tried to hang out with her and even suggest fun things to do, she would call me clingy.

Unless she made the initiative, she didn't seem to like it when I would try to hang out with her. When I graduated, she apparently secretly didn't like it when I went to visit her and some other people either, according to someone else who was also friends with her. She seemed to like it when I visited, but apparently she really didn't. I've seen it happen to other people too. Someone will enjoy another person's constant company, but then if a different person showed the same amount or close to the same amount of attention, it was considered clingy. That's why I feel like people being labeled as clingy can be considered an opinion by others, unless the person being labeled is that way towards everyone and goes so far to the point where it comes off as harassment or even stalking.