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Old Jun 29, 2018, 01:34 PM
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel View Post
It just seems that not only are you walking on eggshells with this T, but you're also training him on how to be a therapist. He says he'll be honest with you, that's great, but the way he reacted about the stone shows that he doesn't have his **** together.

I know you're trying so hard to make this work. I hope your T gets his **** together and helps you process your relationship with ex-mc and other men.

Thanks for the wishes, Scarlet. I feel like he's been understanding more the past few weeks. Particularly in the sense of reassuring me that just because something makes him uncomfortable doesn't mean we can't talk about it. And that he'd never drop me for being uncomfortable about something. It seems like he's finally come to understand my deep-seated fear of rejection and abandonment and is doing things to make me feel safer.

He's supposedly going to talk about the stone in his consulting group that was meeting today, so I'm curious as to how that goes. (Though wish he'd gotten consultation about it closer to when he initially gave it to me and apparently felt uncomfortable about it.) But it does feel like he's trying more lately to understand why he's reacting how he is to some things I say and taking some responsibility for that. He's far from perfect, but going to keep trying with him for now. He seems pretty invested in making it work with me and has said things like he's feeling this out with me. (Would I prefer a T who'd already "felt it out" with past clients? Sure. But if he's willing to examine himself and work with me to meet my needs, I'm willing to give him a chance.
Thanks for this!
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