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Originally Posted by Erebos
You know I am not sure, in some respects I think he knows exactly what he is doing.
He is making her work it out. I don't think he is as dumb as it appears.
LT has a very fixed view of how she expects therapy to go, and he knows it.
No point in agitating that if it isn't necessary.
I Dont think i am over crediting here, I have seen this tactic before.
Alot of his "things" the tape, the stone, some like keeping things moving forward. They dislike fixed objects that provide a focus to the past. And would expect the same explanation of what you hoped to gain from it. And would state the same draw backs.
My pdoc is not dissimilar to this guy except without the sugar coating. And alot more experience and abrasive, but there are familiar tactics.
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Oh I don't think he's dumb at all (though he has said once or twice he fears I'm smarter than him). I think he's trying to challenge me and keep me from falling into the same trap/pattern as with ex-MC. He's trying to look out for my well-being. Does part of me just want someone warm and fuzzy like ex-MC could often be, who will let me be attached to him, who will encourage that attachment (in the name of "working through transference"), who will let me text and e-mail and call as much as I want? Sure. Will that help me move forward? Most likely not (unless it was a T extremely skilled in dealing with transference/attachment who knew how to keep me moving forward in the midst of that). So I think he's trying to do what's best for me to get me mentally healthy and not dependent on therapy and to have good relationships with other people in my life. I can know that cognitively and rationally, but the more emotional/little kid part of me still wants the other stuff because it feels good in the moment. I think I just need a sort of balance for now.