I feel your pain and suffering and also had an ex- who truly did not care one iota about me. I can say, at least, your partner cares about you although his comments may not be welcomed. There is hope. I would not tell him all that you do and just do it if necessary. He can't live for you and you can't live for him. Thus, if you need your medication, then take it. And, if you are trying to taper off, please do so with the consultation from your doctor. I understand your frustration and anger. However, your partner cares and probably thinks his advice is helpful to you. And, if you don't think he can offer any good advice about your medication, then don't tell him about it nor ask his advice. You should take care of yourself as a priority. Then, you will be able to take care of others too. Best wishes!