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timeforsleep said:
People label the depressed, suicidal, and self-harmers as selfish because they cannot accept that people can suffer that much. They are the ones who are weak. Not you.

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agreed!

The real quesiton is how is it FOR YOU
not for your husband. HE is being selfish...not you.,
the point is that some people like family members DO miss this point because they are not objective and say "i can`t see you like his" and "please adjust your atitude" "try once again" "do it for me you love me don`t you?"

so now your husband has this judgmental manipulation over you...and seems like he has success- for you agree with him

Does it make you feel better?

Know this - judgment is NEVER objective - that`s to say -never obsolutly correct.