I've spoken with several trauma survivors whose main barrier in moving on is their underlying belief that with acceptance and letting go, the impact/significance of the experience is undermined; They may feel that the intensity of their love or pain is cheapened. My interpretation is that because their identity is often tied to the experience, moving on can be experienced as a loss of self rather than growth and self love. Since this is entirely conjecture, I'm really curious to read other people's perspectives. I'm having trouble finding info or discussion of this online but I think it's because I don't know how to search correctly- I would appreciate help or insight into this phenomenon!

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