My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 years now. We’re both 25. Through out those 3 years, he has not been able to keep a job for more than several months. The first 2 years he helped my dad as a caregiver, but only got assigned for 4 hours a day so it wasn’t helping me at all for paying his part.

He constantly has problems with others at jobs, says they’re putting all the work on him, or various other problems that could easily be solved. He has very bad anger and seems to always get upset with coworkers or people telling him what to do. I’ve tried for so long to get him to go get professional help, but he refuses since he thinks it doesn’t work and keeps insisting he’ll work on it himself. His excuse for everything is that he can’t deal with people and doesn’t want to be around them because of his past/anxiety and depression. He keeps insisting he has PTSD from his past (he lived in a bad neighborhood/had several incidents that still cause him anxiety), but again refuses to get help.

He started a new job just 3 days ago and already claiming he hates it. He’s so set on only working night jobs in warehouses because he thinks he won’t have to see or talk to anyone. I’m completely against this since with my job and college, I will never really see him for more than an hour a day. I also want him to start focusing on looking for a career type of job, but it seems like everything I suggest, he just tells me how he can’t deal with people.

I don’t know what to do or how to help him anymore. This is really effecting our relationship. We’re finally starting to go out again since for the longest time he would make it so difficult since he constantly had anxiety by places I suggested. I have very bad depression/anxiety as well, but I’ve never let it prevent me from working. I’m slowly resenting him as I’m constantly paying most of his share in the house. He also makes me feel terrible when I suggest I think he’s using his mental health as an excuse to just not work or that he needs to learn to deal with people/get help. I don’t see how our relationship can continue if he can’t even stay at a job or is constantly starting fights with others/quitting his jobs. What can I do to try and help him so he starts taking things seriously? We had a severe fight last night and I told him that if this continues then I will have no choice, but to ask him to move out because I am sick of working so hard to cover for him.