Bingo Jill! That's it to me exactly I have a hard time sitting on his fence cause I find his approach works for me I think I would just sit on his fence and stare at him in awe

I feel that you have to "want" to change compared to "talking" about the change you need to make. If you truly want to take charge of yourself...you need to grab the bull by the horns and go for it. The strength to do it has to come from within yourself. This has nothing to do with wallowing in self pity but of not seeing the light. Myself...hitting a wall (not physically ) was what took me to make changes with myself. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and what I was doing was not working for me anymore ( Dr Phil pops in my mind again)


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