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Originally Posted by healingme4me
It seems like a reasonable demand to expect financial contributions to remain under the same roof.
Granted working a 3rd shift in a warehouse would interfere with the relationship time, at the same time if that's what he's saying would work for him, then why pressure him out of it? And if he cannot even hold that down then you already know what's in your heart.
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I fully agree with the above post. Seesaw made some great points too.
Why not give him a chance to work in a warehouse, a job he wants to do and thinks he can do? If his depression and anxiety are interfering with his work, & if he cannot seem to control his anger, it may be best for him not to work around people as much.
Yes, it would be much more beneficial and ideal if he addresses these issues and works on them with a therapist, but since he refuses, what more can you do but encourage him to do what he thinks will be best?
And no, you cannot push your own agenda or desires onto another person. He will resent you for it, in the end.
He does need to contribute financially for certain, so your feelings are perfectly understandable.
If you still want to give him a chance at this point, I would encourage him to pursue a warehouse position and see how he does. Like healing4me said, if he cannot even do that, then you have your answer.
In the end, he needs to contribute financially and must be able to hold down a job, if you two are going to last.