I'm sorry to hear you are hurting. I know that if someone mentioned getting a restraining order against me, whether it was my fault or not, I would feel hurt. I hear ya.

Unfortunately it's impossible to avoid all painful experiences. It's not a realistic option as earth-dwelling humans. But the good news is that we can learn how to respond appropriately to the painful experiences we will inevitably go through. It's hard work, but therapists can be great at teaching us these skills. CBT might be especially useful.