Life is going to provide you with more painful experiences. Living involves enduring pain. There is no escape from that - not for any of us. Little children scream and get fussy and behave poorly when they are in pain. This alerts responsible adults to help them. You are an above average intelligent adult pushing 30. You cannot expect the level of tolerance and support that children are entitled to get. If you do not make an effort to grow up, people will come to believe that you are simply unemployable.