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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
I read about love in therapy and some therapists openly say they "love" their clients and that there has to be "love" or else there is no therapy. I strongly believe in that as the love isnīt the same kind of love as for a child or a partner but a special love that is "therapeutic love". Itīs not acted upon but is still there through the bond, through an occasional hug and kind words.
The attraction I think for me has to do with knowing she has several sides I wonīt see, like her being intimate with her husband or when she cries over something. Instinctively I would want to be there for her (not in a sexual way) like getting her a warm sweater when itīs cold outside or bring her some pain killers when she has a headache.
I think feeling protective of her is part of the attraction, perhaps someone else has felt this way.
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I've felt protective of my T before. In my particular case it doesn't feel like part of an attraction, more like a response to the inherently unequal roles in the T-patient relationship (it feels weird to be in an emotionally intimate relationship without providing any care whatsoever--that's totally different from every other relationship I've ever been in).
For context, T and I are both female and she's ~10 years older than I am. I have no idea what her sexual preferences might be; I'm like a 2 on the Kinsey scale as far as sexual attraction is concerned but I've never been romantically interested in a woman. I remember at the beginning of us working together I was a little afraid I might develop a crush on her because she's sort of stupidly pretty/smart/compassionate but that didn't end up happening. (The fear wasn't because she's a woman--I would be okay with that, if a little surprised, if that happened in real life. The fear was because having a crush on someone who is 100% unavailable hurts like hell, and I have a history of developing God-awful crushes on unavailable mentor-like figures. It's the *worst*)
This
thread about how people handle feeling compassion for their Ts might be interesting to you?