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Originally Posted by healingme4me
If the friend is hurt by you, it's up to the friend to establish better boundaries through clarifying what is and is not off limits.
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It should have been an obvious off-limits thing, but due to my social retardation I thought it no big deal at the time because I didn't think anything bad would come of what I did, it seemed harmless. I was not thinking clearly because I was so focused on getting an answer to something he mentioned briefly but was unwilling to provide details of. I should have respected that he could not give details, but I didn't. Originally it wasn't a deal breaker, but some days later the situation got worse for him because of the way I handled it and that's why he decided he could no longer forgive.
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
My first impression was, life is too short. Either there's something to offer in friendship or simply there isn't.
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He can offer me a lot, but where it lacks is on my side. I mean, clearly he saw something in me because he was the one to initially approach me for friendship, but I'm definitely the one who benefits most from the company. He's very honest and doesn't have a problem being blunt about something, which is what I need from friends because they have to be ok with telling me if I'm doing wrong. I mean, he even had the balls to tell me why he was removing me and discuss it with me instead of ghost me like most people would. People that I can mesh with are very hard to find.
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
My other impression is that having middlemen sucks.
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It does, and as I said it was not my intention to have this guy as the middleman. Former friend was the first to include him by telling said middleman to be a replacement for him in my life, and my first response through the middleman was to tell him to stop using the poor guy like that and that he can't pretend to be a friend after ditching me like that.
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
And my question in my mind was, is this online or in person?
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Online. I have no IRL friends. Just in case it's going to get said that online sucks and you should go get IRL friends and blah blah: I have tried to make IRL friends, but I can't get along with just anyone and the people around me are the exact types I cannot stand to be around, both male and female. I almost made a friend through work, but she was way too busy with family and her schooling so it never worked out. That was the closest I've gotten since after high school (12 years ago now) every single friend I had left the damn state to go find love and jobs and stuff, so busy in fact we don't talk online or the phone anymore despite me reaching out.
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
And what could be so unforgivable about curiosity that killed the cat?
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Well I sorta answered this above, but when curiosity goes too far and you end up doing things to hurt someone because of it, then it's a problem for sure. There's nothing I can do to fix what I did, all I can do is hope he forgives me and not repeat the mistake.