When my ex T used to say that to me, I would honestly wonder why he thought that would help. It didn't make my pain less to know that other people out there were also in pain. I didn't feel like I could find those other people and we could have a big kumbaya circle and bond in our shared pain and all of us would feel better. I suppose he could have meant that I could have sought them out and asked them how they fixed things in their lives and try to use the same tactics in mine but...when you're in so much pain that you can barely get out of bed and pretend to be human, it doesn't seem likely that you have anything left in the tank to track down other people who feel the same way.