I am glad this article has helped in understanding the difference. When I read this article it really hit home with me, even with how I TRY to explain that I get triggered because YES I am dealing with something that most definitely has already happened and it was bad enough to traumatize me where I did not know how to stop it and it caught me off guard and was very toxic and unexpected.

I can also SO RELATE to the shame where I choose not to engage in someone or something because I have already been hurt by doing so. The constant I get from others is "you need to just ignore and do it anyway", but as much as I want to the person or thing is SO TOXIC and had caused some personal damage to me in someway that I don't want to be anywhere near this person or situation. The shame comes from how badly triggered I get, to a point where I am in physical pain as well as emotionally challenged to a point where I can suffer for a few days in a way so many do not understand and insist I just control of just get over as well as all the other "just" comments.