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I'm not sure if I understand what you are asking. Please excuse my answer if I missed your point.
For me past emotional/psych injuries are like a broken bone. The various bones I've broken in life healed, but they still sometimes ache. I broke my collarbone years ago. I no long have to use a sling to support the arm, but when the weather changes it hurts like a son-of-a-gun.
In terms of emotional injuries, it's not that I "accepted" or "let go," it's that the initial injury healed. Things can happen in my life that bring back memories of things that happened to me. Exposure to violence can bring up bad old feelings and memories, but I have grown and have ways of coping with those emotions now. The hurt has not completely gone away, but is a ghost of what it was.
I used to dissociate - a lot! - during my early healing I told my pdoc I was afraid of losing the ability because it had saved me. The ability to use it has not gone away, but I no longer need to use it because I have other ways of dealing with things.
I'm also integrated from DID. Those other versions of me are not gone. They are still inside me. I can "talk" to them if I need to. I can tap into their strengths if I need to. "I" still exist. I'm just a new version of me. I'm making a hash of this....
Let me try another analogy - when kids mature into adults they don't stop being who they are. They become a newer version of themselves. Life = growth. We all change throughout our lives. It doesn't mean you will stop being you. It just means you'll be a new version of you.
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