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MzJelloFluff said:
i've had a very bad day Not H's fault.. i have been feeling bad for him.. protective.. so confused

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">It's hard to uncouple, JelloFluff, especially when you've been together many years. I find myself doing protective stuff to my H too, making gestures to help him cope, that only years of intimacy with him allow me to know how to do. Afterwards I feel very confused. Why did I just do that? We're separated, for gosh sake--it's not like I want to be back together with him. It's almost just habit, and there is an element to it that makes me feel better, which confuses me further. It is tough to uncouple!!!

Please do not let that mean student who made the cutting comment get to you. Pfffftt! She's just being catty. Ignore her and focus on your strengths and worth. It's a momentary blip and does not mean there is anything wrong with you or that you are not like other people. We are all unique and that is OK!