I see this is your first post, Welcome to PC.

I found a couple of articles from Psych Central's archives.

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-...holic-partner/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/living-with-an-alcoholic/

Sounds like an unenviable situation to be in. With her taking off to get her next fix. Creating a rift between the two of you and neglecting her role as a mom in behaving this way--blackout or not.

I like the first article about letting it sink in without making demands to begin with, only expressing your own feelings.

The second article delves into the support those affected need.