Hi APOguy, first, welcome to PC, this is a good place to get support and even gain some knowledge about the problem you have shared here.

I am sad that this woman you are dating acts like this around her son, she is most definitely damaging him by her behaviors and he will need a lot of help himself eventually as growing up with an alcoholic most definitely creates some significant challenges that can affect someone their entire life.

I am sorry this "beautiful" woman is choosing the alcohol to escape and she drinks to the point where she blacks out like this. This woman will need professional help and often there is a lot more problems aside for the alcoholism. Often women like this, even males began drinking because they suffered trauma and struggle with PTSD, but don't even know it and end up using the alcohol as an escape and then become addicted to the alcohol.

The truth is that even if this woman STOPPED drinking, she will have YEARS facing life sober and whatever might have happened to her that set her on this path. The maturity level of these individuals are often only at the age level they began using too, so that means these individuals will have to learn HOW to grow up and actually learn how to be an adult. If this woman chooses to continue engaging like this, she will end up dying of this disease, I tried to help a friend that drank and she could not stop and died of this disease. The longer one engages this lifestyle, the harder it will be for them because they have gotten to the point where they literally get sick if they don't have alcohol in their system.

For the one's who binge, they can hold off for days, sometimes even weeks, but as soon as they drink, they usually drink until they black out. That is how my husband was and I lived "his" cycle not realizing that I was learning to live my life around a binge alcoholic, I did not know what that was, and they typically hang out with "friends" that also have this problem. These are drinking buddies, but they are NOT actually friends, they only learn to recognize that however when they get sober and learn about this disease and how to commit to staying sober and changing their lifestyle which includes staying away from these so called "drinking buddies" who are only interested in having someone to drink with.

While these individuals suffer, they really HURT everyone around them, their children, partners EVERYONE gets hurt.

I can tell you, you do not even know who this woman really is, even SHE doesn't know that. DO NOT MARRY HER, all you would be doing in marrying the disease itself and that is a relationship that is always TOXIC, that is a guarantee.