My husband likes a bit of sexual play and he likes to some kind of use me in bed. This is the word he uses... he says he wants me to feel used so that i am able to give pleasure to a man. He is my first partner so its hard for me to compare. I consent to this game but deep down i feel a bit ashamed and used for real.
He is gentle in other areas of life and a good friend but in bed he is a bit of a softporn person.
Its hard for me to separate intimacy from real life.
Also if i become a parent one day.. how will my child view this kind of sexual behaviour in the parents. I know kids are now very advanced but still...maybe i am being too naive or prude.