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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
I enjoy following this thread, thanks for sharing all this in one place, LT  And I like your T, he is probably my favorite from the ones people post quite detailed reports about here on PC. I don't think I have ever found Ts that were a very good fit with me but, from the way I imagine, someone like yours might be a decent match and easy to work with. Kinda straightforward, direct, practical, relatively uncomplicated and not infusing interactions and experiences with things unnecessarily and in distorted ways. Open about limits, what sorts of things are challenging for him, but also open to reasonable challenge.
I am really glad to hear that you feel like progressing with him, not only in therapy but also in daily life! I am sure you mentioned much earlier but may I ask how you found this T in the first place? |
Thanks! Always good to know people like reading my updates. T's straightforwardness (or "honesty" as he would put it) really took some getting used to, but for the most part, I appreciate it. I also appreciate that he doesn't share tons of stories about himself and his kids like ex-MC did. Would I like to know some more about him (and his family)? Yes. Do I think that would necessarily be a good thing? No.
As for how I found this T, I just looked at profiles on Psychology Today in this area. I felt I wanted a male, in the hopes of dealing with some of the ex-MC issues and to avoid negative maternal transference that I had with ex-T. I also didn't want one who was, like, 70, for fear they'd be retiring soon. And I didn't want one who had just started practicing. That narrowed it down considerably, and I had a good feeling from T's profile on there and his personal website. I also contacted one other T at the time, but this one got back to me almost instantly (like, he was sitting at his computer when my e-mail came through!) and said he could talk to me that evening about scheduling an appointment. He seemed nice on the phone and open to my just seeing him a month or two as consultation (what I initially wanted), and was able to see me fairly quickly, so went for it.