Selfy it's good you have perspective on your problems, but please remember that if it is important to you and is harming you then it is a big deal. You don't need to measure yourself against others here, it isn't healthy or productive to do that.

I think the real issue here is boundries. You are by nature a people pleaser - there are many amazing advantages to this but this can also lead you to being walked over. I think you need to learn a greater respect for yourself, you do not feel comfortable being with the boy but you put familiarity over this. People aren't all the same, if you don't give clear signals then some will take advantage of you. Recently i too got into the position where i became really ill because i allowed a friend to take everything from me. Now i've decided that it isn't healthy, and that particular person will have to look somewhere else for help and support. Its not that i don't like her, nor have i been rude to her but i have stopped being there for her to cry on my shoulder 24/7.

I don't think necessarily that you need to physically keep away from someone to emotionally keep them at a distance. I live with the girl i was talking about above. I think what you need to do is make a confident and assured decision about what you will and will not do. Once this has been decided it will be easier to be around this boy because you will know that you won't be manipulated.

Ok so all this is easier said than done, but spending time to foster inside yourself respect, confidence, self-belief is possible and it is from these incidences that you learn what is comfortable and not comfortable for you. Remember you are you, you don't have to be anyone else. The most helpful person is one that is strong enough to at times say 'no' and keep themselves healthy and strong.