I think T's are lying if they say they can keep their feelings out of it. I mean, they're just people. Imperfect, fallible, etc. I also think it's bs to say that's what they are paid for. It might sound nice, but doesn't really make sense. I also wouldn't really want a therapist who was a complete automaton, personally.

I think the fact that it made him uncomfortable is "enough," but at the same time, I understand why you wanted to know why. I think it's another one of those instances where you wanted reassurance that something was ok, or that it wasn't to do with you personally.

I'm sorry to hear that the session was so hurtful that it has you contemplating termination again. I hope you will stick with it.