I suppose I'm doing things out of order, but it takes time to type up a session, but no time to copy/paste e-mails, so here you go! Session to come later. Note that the "magic button" does reference something from session--kind of like the Staples red "Easy" button but for getting rid of anxious thoughts.

Me:
Hi Dr. T,
I wish I hadn't asked about the consulting session. I know I seemed OK in session, but I feel really awful right now. I just feel like a pathetic, needy person with really screwed up boundaries. Like a total weirdo. I had this thought that maybe your talking about it with them would give you a better understanding of where I was coming from, but it seems they just reinforced your feelings that I was crossing some line, asking too much of you, and inappropriately pushing you to explain why it made you uncomfortable. I just feel really bad about myself right now.

I wish I wasn't like this, all needy and obsessive and whatever. I wish there was some magic button. But there's not. And that's why I'm in therapy, to work through all that. I guess I just felt kind of shamed again today...even though I'm sure that wasn't your intention.

I'm not sure what I'm expecting you to say. I just feel defective, and also rather hopeless, and I need to not feel that way..."

T (a few hours later):
"Goodness, [LT] - I'm so sorry that you're feeling so badly! You are being very hard on yourself, and taking a very self-critical and overly negative line of thinking. Everyone has things to work on and areas that need improvement, and for you one of those areas is with boundaries. Hopefully you can appreciate that this was not a very significant boundary to cross - to the point where I'm not even sure of how to effectively articulate how or in what way my feelings make rational sense! I appreciate your willingness to have returned the stone, and I'm sorry that the process has ended up feeling shameful. I don't see you as any of the negative words you called yourself in your email.

If you want to talk sooner, I have an opening tomorrow, Friday, in the afternoon."