Hm, not necessarily negative/judgmental. Like with ex-T, I think it was more maternal/caring stuff, but that also interfered with the relationship. Like she suddenly was suggesting I go into the hospital, when I didn't think I was doing so badly. When I questioned her about it next session, she said she'd gotten too close and thought maybe she wasn't being objective anymore.

With ex-MC...I think more positive paternal transference (maybe something else?) played into the relationship and complicated things, made him blur boundaries. But then he tried to put the blame on me--I guess he took a bit of responsibility, but he was also gaslighting me through that (like "oh, we didn't talk on the phone that often" and "I was clear with boundaries in session").

I feel like with current T, he's threatened by clients who want to get too close to him, whether sexually or platonically or whatever. And he's also said that it's not OK for clients to share all their feelings with him, like if they're belittling him, etc. I mean, I can understand the threatening him part. But he even said he'd have issues if a client shared a dream where they wanted to hurt him (apparently sexual dreams are OK to share, since that's what I thought he was driving at when he said some dreams aren't OK to share). And then beyond all this, there's his whole, "You affect me, LT," which I'm still trying to process and understand. Like he's saying just in general things that I say and do affect him (beyond, say, threats or sexual innuendos).

I don't think I really answered your question, just trying to figure it out...