Quote:
Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
T (a few hours later):
"Goodness, [LT] - I'm so sorry that you're feeling so badly! You are being very hard on yourself, and taking a very self-critical and overly negative line of thinking. Everyone has things to work on and areas that need improvement, and for you one of those areas is with boundaries. Hopefully you can appreciate that this was not a very significant boundary to cross - to the point where I'm not even sure of how to effectively articulate how or in what way my feelings make rational sense! I appreciate your willingness to have returned the stone, and I'm sorry that the process has ended up feeling shameful. I don't see you as any of the negative words you called yourself in your email.
If you want to talk sooner, I have an opening tomorrow, Friday, in the afternoon."
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I can see where some of your discomfort lies in this response. I think overall it seems reassuring and conveys that he doesn't think poorly of you. But I don't think email is a good place to tell you that he thinks you have issues with boundaries. And his comment about appreciating your willingness to return the stone seems kind of awkward to me. He was uncomfortable with you keeping that stone once he decided he knew how you were using it. Almost like Gollum with the ring.
Personally, I think I would want to take some time to think this through and not go Friday, but you seem really good at confronting things head-on. I'm sure whatever you decide will be the right thing.