Last comment until the write up of the whole session. I agree with the people who say, if you can contain the anxiety feelings, don't go to the session. Lean out instead of lean in. Demonstrate aloofness and independence.

An old part of attachment theory gives a kind of law of nature- if one person over functions, the other person will under function. You can end up doing 3/4ths of the work in a relationship while the other person only has to do 1/4th but gets credit for 50/50.

If someone has autism, they "unqerfuction" in relationship, and I find it to be something in play or relevant that both you and your T have relationships in which you simply must give a ton in order to parent well.

I think skipping the session and coming in with calm cool goals- Like I have anxious attachment, and I want to feel less scared of abandonment a year from now - might be good?