suffering is suffering. but it's *about* something and exploring that something can bring the joy of enlightenment. ... and possibly a relief of the suffering.

i am suffering the loss of someone i felt very close to. i am suffering. but what the suffering is about, the loss, is something valuable to explore and learn from if I choose to explore it.

Buddhists say we all seek happiness and do not want suffering.

And so when suffering comes, as it always will, it is an opportunity, or a joy, that we can explore it and use what we find to help us in seeking our happiness.