((((Ingridave))))
I am sorry you are having to go threw this. I should have posted sooner. My son who is 17 has "Aspergers/autism spectrum" he is PDD and LD. First I want to say I know how hard it is. Life can be very difficult, They see things in a different light. Everything is taken literally with these kids.While writing this I am smiling as they are gifts" these kids." But with this gift comes many challenges for them and you as a parent.
I have 2 children. my son being the second. So i knew from the beginning he was special. Trying to get help was the hard part. He could not speak so you could understand him till he was about 7 or 8 or maybe longer.
Luckily My Dr was a friend of mine. He wrote the school and requested my son to be seen by a specialist. Once that was done the specialist came to the school. Yes he questioned us. But assured me I was not to blame. I am writing this part so you know I know how you feel. "His Dad blamed me." "then he blamed my son" totally wrong. It is not your fault or mine. It just happens. So never blame yourself.....
Yes it can run in family's. Like anything else. My cousins child has Aspergers. She is doing great now . She is 23 working. Doing online college.There were others in our family too. But has nothing to do with bad parenting.AT all.....so rest on that one.
My son i would never change a thing about him, he is one big miracle. I am so lucky to have had him, He was a blessing. As hard as it has been, The pain I have seen him go threw. He is amazing. He has a hard time reading and writing. But is a wiz at math. He can remember everything that is read to him. He is unbelievable.
He takes no meds. He did for awhile, but it never helped him.
Right now congress and others are very focused on Autism. So know there is much help out there.
I realize your heart aches for him. Know one wants to see their child suffer. I hurt every time my son hurts. He had a issue last night. And my heart was breaking inside for him. But we worked threw it,
I answered ever question he had, I had to be careful how i worded things as it is taken literally as I said. being 17 now he faces new issues. But he faces them. So know that there is hope and faith and love will help him and you get threw this.
Never ever blame your self. As i said that was dumped on me once. At one point i believe it myself. "that it was my fault" Its not. hope this helps....

Muffy