I'm the mom of a moderately MR 18 year old. So I've had a great deal of experience with Spec. Ed, in school districts across two state and back in preschool handicapped days.

Currently, I have my son in a program that is amazingly comprehensive and supported by admin and community both monetarily and administratively.

I am curious in what part of the country you are. Because it sounds as if you are not getting the support you need, certainly in terms of staffing, etc.

Perhaps it's time to look for a more supportive school district. They are out there. Better than waiting until you just burn out and noone gets the benefit of your caring. You also don't want to become desensitized out of necessity because it's all just too much to bear.

Have you thought of a job change? Noone can do it all alone.