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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
T: "First, I had to give a little background on you to the group, so they could more accurately assess what happened." Me: "Uh OK." T: "I told them how you had some boundary and attachment issues." Me: "You think I have boundary issues?" T: "Yes. You are often very affected by things I say, like they penetrate you in a way they wouldn't for most people." Me: "But I don't think of that as boundary issues, just being sensitive." T: "I would consider it a boundary issue, the letting things affect you, how you let what I or other people say to you penetrate the barrier. So the boundaries aren't as strong."
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Going back in the thread a bit, I know. Many Ts do think of this as a boundary thing— “porous boundaries” is the term used in the literature, which I quite like. I used to feel tremendously affected by what other people said and did, my own mood easily swayed by the emotions of people around me. In trying to learn how to be less susceptible to this kind of thing, I used to literally imagine a porous bubble enclosing me, then envision it getting thicker, impermeable. That old childhood chant— I’m rubber, you’re glue.
