I don’t think there is anything wrong with talking about the relationship with a T. I just worry sometimes that people on here can be so black and white and create red flags where there actually aren’t any, which leads to more distress for some people. The reality is that we are only getting part of a story, and one person’s perception of an encounter. That can be challenging.

For example, earlier this week, my T said “I won’t tell you not to end your life.” Now that statement by itself can seem really harsh. If I posted saying just that, people would probably judge her harshly and say she was awful. But I’m taking one sentence out of an entire conversation, and if I said the whole part I remember, it really wasn’t harsh. And truthfully, we are dealing with trauma and tough attachment stuff, and I don’t remember the whole thing.