took the self inventory....results were very interesting.

Top score was 12 for collaborating.....next one came in comteting at 9.......compromising at 7......... & harmonizing at 5.

Interesting.....I guess if I can't collaborate, I will compete....if I don't win at the competition, then I will compromise.....& if that doesn't work, I give up & harmonize.....lol.

In my marriage conflict that has been going on for 32 years, I can't collaborate with someone who won't even communicate & since I have been doing nothing but harmonizing for 32 years, I am stuck at it's my way & I won't give an inch anymore.....no way will compromise ever show up at this point in the relationship....it's past saving since there is no other side.

I have cut off all phone calls because he was pushing me so far, my anger only turned to rage, so there is no point is talking....so turned to email....figured I would confront the issues that way.......absolutely no response at all......NOTHING....NADA.......not a peep. Except for an email on my B-day the day after I got the IRS letter & confronted him....saying he hoped I had a nice B-day.....& that he's truely sorry he hasn't been a good partner or husband. Like I'm going to have a good birthday after I found out he did that to me....I was still in a state of shock & so angry I would have ended his life if he had even been in the same state......guess we didn't look at that as being a conflict resolution style.....lol....(I wouldn't have really done that...I can't even kill a spider very easily.

I have had conflict resolution experience when I was an engineer....many different issues, from a kid right out of college that was rather lazy & everyone was getting on his case....I inspired him & got him motivated to take on much more responsibility & he ended up really excelling.

To a lead engineer who wasn't doing his job....that conflict, I failed miserably at however....ended up the one getting the rotten end of that situation.

To a sexual issue (the only one I ever experienced in 15 years of working with all guys) that worked out very smoothly with everyone ok with the situation.

Most of conflict resolution methods have been a combination of common sense & the techniques talked about here.....I am however looking forward to hearing more information on the Monday night lecture/chats......I was impressed with last monday (sorry I was late)....Understanding the format helped to get more out of it also.....

My compliments sky....looking forward to the next few weeks.
Thanks,
Debbie