Twinks, I'm glad you found a term that gives you more insight into your relationship with your T. I think each person needs to find meaning in their relationship however they can. If this shoe fits, then wear it! I don't really feel my relationship with my T is much about transference, so I don't get too much insight from reading about that phenomenon. After reading about limerance, I can't say this fits for me either. I take some meaning about the relationship here and there from various readings and what others share with me, but a lot too from what I know to be true between us.