Starting in my 40’s after years of frustration in a bad marriage, specifically intimacy issues, I smacked myself in the head with my brush. I had never even thought of doing that before in all my life. Never even heard of anyone doing it. No one gave me the idea. I continued doing this kind of SH for a few years. It was automatic and uncontrolled during extreme frustration. The blinding pain, hot, surging through me felt exquisitely good for a moment. I had hoped the SH would scare my husband into giving me what I wanted, but it didn’t. I stopped the SH.

I went to therapists. I have learned the moment they hear anything regarding SH, they say “Borderline”.