Hi there. I think this is the right place to post.

I'm in my 30s and my parents finally got a divorce 6 years ago. It's something I had to encourage because neither of them were happy for all of my life.

So anyway, my mother has been in a new relationship but kept it a secret from my brother and I for 3 years. We've been pushing her to break the news to my dad because her new boyfriend has been pushing to be at our college graduations that will be coming up. My brother and I are alright for the guy to come to celebrations, but we were worried about my dad since he still had no idea. I've been persuading my mother to just bite the bullet and get it over with so that events such as graduations and weddings.

My mother finally told my dad and I got an angry phone call from him regarding the fact that I knew but didn't do anything about it. I calmly explained that I didn't want to involve myself in their thing although encouraged her to tell him sooner. My dad dodged my calls after that and I recently received another angry call him from. He mentioned that out of everyone, he expected me to at least let him know and that all of us (my brother, my mother and I) made a complete fool of him.

I apologized to him and that it wasn't my intention to hurt him or make a fool of him, that I just didn't want to get involved like the time I got dragged into court to translate for them (which the judge didn't approve of, scolded my parents and told me to get out of the courtroom).

I feel badly about all of it but it was okay that I set a boundary of not wanting to get involved, right? It wasn't my business to tell and it wasn't like I was sitting idly...