Ruby, stop saying you were "traumatized." The threat of the restraining order was an extreme measure that you pushed that person toward. It seemed you were going to defy the instruction that you leave that person alone. I guess you only stopped because of the threat of bringing the law down on you. That seemed to "shock" you into having more respect for this person's right to be left alone. Being told that you simply will not be allowed to act however you want is not a "trauma." It is a fair requirement that all people living in a civilized society must meet. Those who will not abide by that requirement tend to end up in jail or in some institutionalized setting for people with severe behavior problems. Those are tough consequences. But they are necessary. You also are protected by society's rules. If some sexual predator were to follow you around and invade your space, you would want police to protect you . . . and they would.

No one was unfair to you. Nothing traumatic has happened to you. There are rules in this world. It would be a horrible jungle, if there weren't. You wouldn't like it either.

Being told that you will absolutely not be allowed to just do as you please is totally appropriate.