You have the power to make a good choice and leave. I know how scary it is, I left after a 31 year abusive marriage. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. Verbal abuse damages the immune system. Every time you hear verbal abuse cortisol is released and cortisol damages your physical health. One sentence helped me leave; "Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself.....win."