Grrrrr, I am SOOOO mad! My ex and I split up 2 years ago next month. He got engaged soon after that, and is to get married in June this year. My problem is the way he treats his girls. He and his fiancee love our 3yo but have almost no relationship with our 8yo. Alot of this comes from the fact that 8yo has a brain injury and subsequent major bahavioural issues. She is not allowed to stay overnight at their house, and several times he has stopped all contact with her. He even forgot her birthday last year. Now, they informed me this morning that the girls' dresses for the wedding are nearly ready. I was being given descriptions of the 3 dresses (fiancee has 7yo daughter) and turns out that I had not been given full details of the girls' parts in the wedding. I knew that 7yo was to be bridesmaid, and that my 2 were to be flower girls or something like that. Today I find out that 7yo and 3yo are having matching dresses and are both bridesmaids, 8yo has a different dress (a fairy dress or something, not a beautiful bridesmaids dress made esp for her...). As fiancee was telling me this my ex told her to hush, to watch what she was saying. She said that she had already told me that 8yo had 'special job' in the ceremony... Once again 8yo is being singled out, and made to be doing something different. I am SOOOO mad, on behalf of her. (Btw, brain injury only really affects her education and behaviour; ppl often don't even realise anything is amiss). I am dreading the cries of rejection and unhappiness as this wedding comes to be; it is SOOO not fair on her.
nb: ex and I have been on fairly good terms for about 6mths now. I am learning to stand back and not make waves about things; he agreed- after saying straight out no- to things being amicable. But after I got sole guardianship of 3yo in december coz he cut all contact with both girls until he calmed down; i just discovered recently he has never paid child support AND was even bragging about this to his work mate (here child support is not backpaid, they will only take it from date they receive forms, and altho I filled in forms at the start with our gvmt agency that pays all benefit-incomes, they did not send them on- or the forms got lost enroute. I would never have received any payments anyway coz I am on a benefit, that is why I thought I had not been contacted).
He gets away with everything and comes out of all of this smelling like roses. I have to deal with the utter rejection and sadness he causes 8yo (and sometimes 3yo too).