When I ask my therapist a personal question he often tries to find the meaning behind my question by saying something like, “Why do you want to know that?” or “Why do you ask that question?” I know it’s a stereotypical therapist thing and he says it nicely, but I still find it strange. I’m just trying to understand this dynamic better. I understand that we are not friends and that we should not spend the hour talking about him, but an occasional question seems pretty innocent and natural. I don’t ask a lot of personal questions , but when I do, he sometimes answers them and sometimes not. I recently posted about how I had asked my T if he had any pets and he went to great lengths not to answer my question. I felt hurt by his non-response. Is this a boundary issue? Did I cross a boundary by asking and then pushing for an answer when he didn’t answer? I’m just confused and I’m seeing him tomorrow after a 2.5 week vacation during which time I’ve been holding a bit of a grudge over his choice not to respond to my question. Please help me understand.