It’s such a relationship mistake to bring your bitterness from your break up into your next relationship. It’s not fair to you at all. Maybe he wasn’t ready for you and still grieving and bitter when you met.

I would wait to see if he says something upsetting, then I’d tell him how much all that has hurt you...especially the ‘he won’t fight for you’ comment.

As for her keeping his name, I think you should try to let anger about that one go. People have asked me if I’m keeping my husband’s last name after our divorce, after 25 years and 3 kids. Of course I am. I wouldn’t dream of going back to my maiden name.