If you were with someone and happy, you wouldn’t hurt them to do it first. If it has been a pattern for you, you can delve deep into why this is ongoing for you.

Personally, I have had a mixed experience of being the dumper or dumpee. Mostly, the dumper. I’ve hated being the one to have a change of heart, get repulsed, turned off, and break up. I also hated getting broken up with.