Hey Circles5,

I have trust issues myself....so don't know if my "tips" would be useful, because I understand what having trust issues means......or completely useless, since I have trust issues and they haven't cured me.

First, the biggest person you can trust - is yourself. No disappointment coz you know what to expect from yourself.

All the things you do because you want to - expected.
All the things you do even if you don't want to - expected
All the things you don't do because you don't want to - expected
All the things you don't do even if you want to - expected

Please maintain a journal - about your day, about you, about the people in your life. Writing kinda compartmentalizes the gazillion things you have in your head. You'd be surprising how insightful your journals can be. It'd help you build a better relationship with yourself. You'd be clearer about what you want and what you don't want - and hence can develop such filters with others.


When you have a better relationship with yourself, end of the day, no matter how bad others betray you - you can trust yourself to get up, dust yourself and walk away.

When you know you've got your back.....you've nothing to worry about what others do to you.

Second, give yourself time. Years of damage cannot be undid in few sessions. Slowly, steadily, you'd be able to trust your therapist. But do let your therapist know you're having trust issues with her. She'd understand!

Thirdly, do practice mindful meditation - try think about nothing and focus on your breathing. It helps activate something called 'Mohawk region of self-awareness' in your brain. Again, this will help you better understand your needs and wants.


Hope this was useful!