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Originally Posted by Lrad123
I actually really liked this point that circles made and even brought it up today with my T. My T’s response, if I understood him correctly, was that it’s more about my interpretation that I felt blown off or unworthy of getting an answer from him. The whole interaction created a conflict that allowed us in a way to start a deeper conversation today. He doesn’t want to validate all my thoughts and feelings, but instead challenge them. I actually appreciate this, I think. At least for the moment.
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Sometimes challenging a person's thoughts and feelings can also be called "gaslighting," and I don't know, if you ask me, it's a thin line. Anyone in any situation can just conveniently say "it's not about what I did, it's about the way you reacted to me, that's what needs to change here."
It IS about how you feel, and just from my standpoint, it seems to me like you are actually feeling skeptical of this interaction.
I mean, it's true that we can only control our own reaction to others, and not their behavior, BUT, that alone doesn't necessarily mean that you
weren't blown off.