Yes, the T that has helped me the most in my life and literally saved my life yelled at me quite a few things and purposefully allowed for her anger to be incorporated into our sessions, as well as my own. Unfortunately today was her last day, so I have to move on to a new T. It’s heartbreaking. But, about the yelling, she did it in a productive manner. Sometimes it was her actually raising her voice, other times it was just using an incredibly stern tone. She did it because honestly, it’s the only thing that works with me when I get in certain willful states and helps me turn around self-destructive behavior real fast. She only ever yelled at me because she cares, and she would make that clear and never just leave me after the yelling, we’d always talk through why she yelled, what needs to be done going forward, behavior changed, etc.. Personal safety stuff and self-sabatogng my goals were the main things that got her on my case real fast. The yelling really worked to kind of snap me out of wherever I was and actually listen to what she was saying to me for real. She kinda did it in a parenting/nurturing way, and she even said as much.

What your T is doing does not sound like that...your T sounds abusive and overly controlling. It sounds like she just wants to break you down, not build you up. Like it’s her way or the highway and that she wants to control the whole conversation, which is not what therapy is about. I had a controlling T like that once and I lasted 2 weeks with her. Are you happy with this T? Do you feel like you’re making progress? Or do you just feel like she’s beating you down? I think those are the questions you have to ask yourself.